My friends know me well. Who else can convince me to do a 31 day Blog-A-Thon when I can barely post once a quarter besides Lindsey and Kat? Gone are the days where daily postings were a part of my lifestyle. Well, here’s to “January can be boring blog project.” Clink*Clink*
Backpacking in your backyard, visits to Hawaii to see the family, and road trips to see the Bestie, doesn’t quite live up to a month long trip without anyone else but you and your spouse. No excuses to be nice, friendly or cordial regardless of how lost we are or that we don’t understand the local language. If our “I dos” came at a time to be tested, this would be it.
We typically do well when we travel. Especially if there are others with us. Snowshoeing trips with a group of 8, road trips to see the Kullbergs (there are 6 of us), Happy Hour with friends, Holiday Celebrations with family, all leave us in the presence of other people. Let me be clear. That’s not a bad thing. In fact we’re relational, social, friend-loving folks. And it’s not like we’re pissed-off-all-the-time spouses but this trip was something that we decided was going to test us as people as well as our marriage. We’d know soon enough if planning the next overseas trip was going to happen sooner or never.
Honestly, it was one of the best-new-experiences of our marriage. And here’s why.
1. We were realistic about our expectations. We had none.
2. We had a budget and both of us knew that souvenirs weren’t a part of it….no matter how gorgeous those camel colored knee-high boots were in London. Sigh.
3. We planned. That’s a lie. Kyle planned the entire thing. But that’s beside the point. You need to have a framework for what you want to do, see, experience. Without it, it’s just a really expensive trip.
4. We were flexible. And this is a rarity, especially knowing that I am control freak and love everything in order. But the sense of not knowing where we were going to sleep in the next country was a bit exhilarating….even for a type-A person like myself. I’m hoping to do more ‘stretching’ experiences like this in the future. And who knows, we may just end up in a castle because of it.
5. We are self-aware. In the months leading up to the trip, we were both cracking jokes about “Now if this happened, you can’t do/say…fill in the blank.” Mostly it was Kyle reminding me of my impatience. I just reminded him he needed to feed me or my hangry state was going to be permanent, regardless of how fancy the menu.
6. We both love experiences, especially new ones. We intentionally sought out things we’d never do-eat-see stateside. Military Tattoo Bag-Pipe Concert? Yes. Lodging in a 15th century mansion? Yes. 15 hours of travel to get to the Western-tip of Norway for the freshest seafood in the world? Yes. Realizing bullet trains aren’t for an efficient person like myself and my romantic idea of train rides were totally a self-created fantasy? Yes. Best Thai-food in Sweden? Yes. One can’t get Nyquil or Advil in any supermarket but you can get Percasit? Yes.
7. We made sure to take it easy. Our agenda wasn’t jam-packed. In fact we slept in every morning, stayed up late watching Law & Order, and we made sure to respect each others request for some quiet time. Kindle, ipad, TV, you name it. If I wanted alone time, I got it.
8. We actually travel really well together. Dare I even go as far to say, perhaps better without friends or family. Which I suppose is good thing, especially if we’re husband and wife.
And on that note, we’re already looking for a new adventure in 2013. I guess you’ll need to come back and see where we’ll head to next. In the meantime, stick around for Day 2 of our January Blog-A-Thon.
Because January can be boring. Join us for a January Blog-A-Thon. Post a photo, video, sentence, anything that you want to! And if don’t feel inclined to blog, do come back and see what we’re up to. I can guarantee you’ll be entertained.